There’s a wedding and a humble man arrives and takes a seat on the back row. The father of the bride takes note, approaches the newly arrived guest saying, no my friend, come up higher. There is advantage in humility, merit in staying back, and no methodology teaches it like the Alexander Technique. According to today’s New York Times, an individual perceived as slightly neurotic, a bit withdrawn and staying back, is judged by his or her peers as a better colleague than the extrovert who does the same work at the same level of expertise. In business, in conversing with a child, in teaching a class or a lesson, stay back and let the other invite you in or up. Study the Alexander Technique. You’ll learn that staying back is a position of advantage, a place of openness from which you can appreciate the status — the standing — of the other. Stay back. Keep your own counsel. That’s the Alexander Technique in a nutshell. Study it. Engage with it. Your family and your colleagues are going to notice.